There’s usually no magic bullet for anything in life. And the same is true for our quest for happiness. We can’t continue to expect that learning something profound is the only way to move forward.
A large portion of my job as a therapist is to grant people permission to feel a certain way. What if you were able to start granting yourself that permission, though?
Are you letting life happen... or are you out there making life happen? That saying, "same shit, different day" shouldn't cut it for you anymore.
Ya know how when you're going through something tough, you feel desperate for something, anything to make you feel better? Well, unfortunately I don't have any great drugs to shuffle your way. But maybe approaching your pain with curiosity rather than fear or resentment can be helpful.
Our brain's natural tendency towards resistance gets in the way of personal growth. So we are hardwired to give the middle finger to transformational thoughts and behaviors that clash with our current thoughts and behaviors.
Who ever said life was supposed to be fair? Or that things are ever supposed to turn out a specific way?
And it was in that moment that I thought, “Wow. I don’t even want to be entertained. I just want to be distracted.” We're so locked into the habit of seeking that we don't allow ourselves the pleasure of enjoying.
You meet with a stranger. You pay them. You tell them lots of personal stuff, while knowing very little about them in return. You hope for great results, yet are also aware that there is no guarantee.
When you read something from an expert, do you trust their advice implicitly because of their "expert status"? And then what happens when you read different, or even conflicting advice from another expert in the field?
The ultimate trap: we believe there’s always a “right” way to do things. As though there is a book written about each one of us that contains the ideal, perfect version of our lives. The life we could have if we would just figure our shit out already!
Personal development is tricky stuff. One minute you’re in despair, the next minute you’ve dog eared every other page of your Brene’ Brown book and are feeling empowered!
Ya see… We only have the capacity to freak out over so many things in this world, so we need to become selective with how we use our obsessive, irrational energy.